Decision making is hard. And yet, can be so easy.
Many times in my life I have been paralyzed by indecision. I have always struggled to make the pro/con analysis work for me. I can always think of a boatload of pro reasons and a truckful of con reasons. Brain on hyperdrive.
So last year, when I was at an impasse about where I wanted to live, I threw the pro/con analysis to the curb in favor of experimenting with iFeelio.
One night, lying in bed, I felt very stressed about where to live. Would I stay in Boulder? Move back to Detroit? Or perhaps venture to Oakland? I took out iFeelio, and this time, instead of documenting how I was feeling in regards to what was happening, I used it to test how I would react to various things that could happen.
WITA
So what I did was this:
1) Wrote into the happening box, “When I think about…” (abbreviated WITA) and then followed it with “…staying in Boulder for 5 years.”
2) Read outloud what I had just wrote.
3) Observed how my body reacted and wrote those emotions in the feeling box.
4) Repeated 1-3 for “…moving to Detroit,” “…moving to Oakland,” and other possibilities.
5) Compared my answers.
What I found was that when I had thought about staying in Boulder, I felt suffocated. When I had thought about moving to Detroit, I felt unprepared and a little slow. When I had thought about moving to Oakland, I felt alive, excited, and motivated. So I moved to Oakland.
My body had known what I wanted to do and by paying attention to it, I saved my head a tremendous amount of strife and labor.
So try it
Try the WITA method. Or something else. Or maybe you already are.
How are you using iFeelio in a creative way to help you?