DailyJim: What if someone wants to be left behind?

Hello everyone welcome to another daily gym this is wednesday july 10th 2024 i want to talk about.

What if someone wants to be left behind, okay so the topic of this is related to going to um events together and leaving together, or just going together in the first place or trying to make joint decisions with somebody, Um, maybe it could even be simply as hiking, going for a hike and wanting to go up the trail. And the other person wants to be left behind. They don't want to go. They just want to stay where they are or they want to go in the opposite direction. What to do? Um, I think often there's a lot of cultural pressure to stick together and to continue to, to make sure that people go in the same direction. I was out the other night and a friend wanted me to have another drink, have have another drink. After the first one, I said yes. The second one, I said no. And I said, I'm going home. And this was a female friend. And people here told me, ah, but you can't just leave a woman by herself in the club, in the bar. I said I was going home. Like I said, I wanted to go home an hour and a half ago.

How much do I or other people fight to convince that person that we need to leave together?

Or how much do we stay because we need to leave together? Or how much do we accept that, hey, this person wants to stay behind or get left behind and I want to go and it's okay, we can go separate ways.

And I wonder how this plays out in so many different aspects of our lives. If I want to, or if somebody wants to get more physically fit, and I don't want to, I just want to stay where I'm at, do they wait for me and try to pick me up, or do they just go do it anyways and say, listen, if you don't want to go running with me, it's fine, I'm going to go running.

If I want to go to a concert, and this person doesn't want to go to a concert, do I try to convince them? Or do I not go to the concert because they don't want to go? Or do I go anyways and say, if you don't want to go, that's fine. You can stay here. I think people have different personalities. Screw personality. I don't like that too much. I think people have different behaviors or patterns as it relates to this. And I don't know, maybe for a long time, I've been more of the one who would say, if you want to stay, that's okay, but I'm going to go.

Or vice versa. If you want to go, that's okay, but I'm going to stay. We don't have to go together. And I think other people can have more of a tendency to make sure that people stick together. Ah, but we always need to be together. So if you don't want to go, we're not going. If you do want to go, then we'll go. I don't know. I don't know if there's a right answer here. I don't know what makes us feel healthier or happier or more wholesome or alive or whatnot, energized for life.

I wonder if sometimes we go too far in one direction and then we don't balance it out very well. So maybe we always do things on our own and we're not willing to stick with the other people and compromise in that way. Or fight for them to come with us because we say, if you don't want it, fine, I'll just go. Not even trying to convince the other person to go at all. Or do we often only go when somebody else is going or only stay when somebody else is staying and feel really afraid and hesitant to do the opposite and split up and go in different directions? I'm just thinking about this more because I think lately I've had more of a tendency to try to get people to come along emotionally. I want to go on a specific path. I want to get much more open, communicate much more clearly, frankly feel more love for myself and other people in my life and enemies in my life and life in general. And I don't know how many other people want to go on that journey with me. And when they say, no, no, just stay here. Don't go off and do something so extreme. Just why can't you be more normal? Do I agree and say, fine, yeah, I'll just be more normal and stay where they're at? Or do I keep trying to go and do I try to pull them along or do I go by myself? Do I say, hey, get up, like, let's go. Come on, let's do this together. Or do I say, listen, if you don't want to go, fine, I'm going to go anyways. I think lately I've been more in the, hey, let's go. Come on, get up. You can do this.

And really just been evaluating it because there's also a big part of me that says, man, let me just go. If these people don't want to go, I don't want to sit and convince them and fight them and push them and make them uncomfortable and force them. If you don't want to go, you don't want to go. Fine. I'm going to go. It angers me you don't want to go, but I'm going to go. Maybe one day you'll want to go. I don't know. So just kind of reflecting and playing on these, realizing that some of these reflections are very raw, very vulnerable in the moment. They don't make a lot of sense. Maybe collectively that makes sense. Maybe an AI will analyze me and figure me out faster than I do. Or maybe some other person will do that and then be able to manipulate me. Who knows? Maybe that is the essence of life, but the person may also be able to help me and direct me and understand me.

And So I hope you appreciate some of these raw, real-time reflections about what's going on in my life. And I hope it inspires you or helps you to reflect in your own way or also on these questions as well. So talk to you all tomorrow. Bye.