Transcript
Hello, everyone. Welcome to another daily Jimm. It is Monday, January 22nd, 2024. Today, I want to talk about a very unscientific poll that I did uh this afternoon, about asking the question, would you rather be at peace or in love?
So I asked this question in a very unscientific way on a whatsapp status. And obviously, these are people who know me and there's a bias sample bias and I know very little of getting a statistic or getting a representative sample and all this stuff. So, um but the results I would say is that I had 57 at least 57 people look at it. And I think 16 replied and most of the people said that they would rather they would rather be at peace. A few people said both. One person said, like uh peace equals love. Another person said, peace, you know, both. And then I kind of pushed to get one answer and they said that peace and out of all 16 replies, only one person said that they would rather be in love, or rather they said love leads to peace. Um And it shocked me it kind of shocked me. I kind of anticipated that most people would say that they want to be at peace because I think it's a highly uh uh I think it's a foundational value for a lot of people, or at least we think it is. And uh and that few would say in love, but I was shocked only one, only one really. Um. And again, maybe there's a bias that the people who are looking at statuses and replying to them. Um If they're in love, they're probably not on their phone looking at it. But I would think that a lot more of us would want to be in love. Don't we enjoy the experience of having the high highs and also some of the low lows. But, but the excitement, the exhilaration, the, the uncertainty, the aliveness that comes with being in love, or do we fear it so much that we just want to be at peace that there's so much going on in our life. We think about previous romantic relationships or even just uh familial relationships, kind of these deep loving relationships that we have. And we think about the, oh, the things that stress us out, the guilt that we feel or the um ah, resentment that we feel for doing something that we don't want to do. And then we just want kind of that resentment, that guilt, the anger, the frustration, the sadness of these things to go away more than we want, the joy and the excitement and the gratitude to increase.
I admittedly was kind of disappointed for me. It's almost, I'd say almost not certainly, but I strongly would rather be in love strongly. I, I enjoy the ups and the downs, but especially the ups. Like, do we do? People just want to get rid of the joy and get rid of the, uh, the awe and the exhilaration and the, the kind of the electric sensation that we can get sometimes with being in love.
I don't know. So it really kind of had me thinking the rest of the day, how much can we generalize from something like this? How, how common is this perspective in society? How common is this perspective? Not just for being in romantic love, but just kind of being in love with life. How many of us don't want to be in love with life? We'd rather be at peace with life and what does at peace with life really mean? What does in love with life really mean?
I think.
I think I'm really curious to explore just how deep this idea of wanting to be at peace is because I think a lot of us actually think we want to be at peace. And I've talked about this before, but think we want to be at peace and then we're like go watch a horror film. Why would you watch a horror film if you want to be at peace? Why would you, why would you go on Twitter? Why would you go on the internet? Why would you even use your cell phone if you want to be at peace? Why eat spicy food? Why try new food? Why go for a new job? Why start a new company? Why apply for a competition if we want to be at peace? All of these things create a lot of uh uncertainty and stimulation. Why, why drink coffee if we want to be at peace? Why, why get drunk? Why do any of these things that can take us out of the uh kind of the flat line existence of life now? Maybe people define peace differently. But for me to be at peace almost has this, it seems to be a feeling of kind of very slow rolling wave, almost, almost flat line, but not really like a sine wave that is just very, very soft, very low amplitude.
And um.
How much of it do we actually want or how much do we think we want to be like that? Because I can think of so many examples of people telling me they just want to be at peace and then I'm like, but you are not living your life in a way that would just lead to peace. Because if you just want to be at peace, you probably just have to start disconnecting from all these different people, all these different people, all these different activities, all these, Yeah. So uh today was just the, the little experiment to test how much do you know, which do we think we want more to be at peace or to be in love? I'm curious how you respond to this. Um If you listen to the episode, please let me know, I would love to hear your comments about how it plays out in your life. All right. Talk soon.
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