DailyJim: The weakness of being strong and the strength of being weak

Hello everyone welcome to another daily gym it's uh the episode for thursday october 31st halloween i'm actually in kenya right now so i didn't feel fully like halloween i almost forgot about the episode today i want to talk about the weakness of strength and the strength of the weakness of being strong and the strength of being weak so i think a lot of people, think that they're being strong by being strong and only being strong and i think it is such a shell it is such a shell of humanity we put up this hard shell we put up this armor to pretend that we're fucking strong and i'm okay i'm quite angry about this now so i'll cuss but.

They're the people who are the strongest are the ones who can relax imagine you came up to a martial artist and he was always puffing out his chest and he's always flexing his muscles do you think he's the strongest one or do you think the one who stands there and looks very calm is the strongest one almost always it's the one who is calm because the one who is calm knows when to be strong when they have to be and otherwise they can be gentle it's a lot of energy to be strong and it can lead to a lot you can break a lot of things if we're strong and we're rough all the time we break a lot of things because a lot of things require gentleness and tenderness and care and I think there has been such a fucking cultural wave around the world of lying to people and telling them that strength is not opening up and feeling sad or opening up and feeling tender or soft or gentle or whatever the phrase may be.

But I think it's such a sham. What a sham that we're telling to so many people. How has this lie perpetuated across generations and literally killed people because they are too afraid to show quote-unquote weakness, too afraid to cry, too afraid to admit they need help, too afraid to ask for someone to help them fulfill their dreams, too afraid? What part of strength is being too afraid too afraid to feel a vast majority too afraid to be happy because happy can make us feel quote-unquote weak and we lose control and we relax and we don't even want to feel happy so this whole idea of pursuit of happiness and trying so hard to live in a happy world for a lot of people is bullshit because a lot of people are terrified more, more of happiness than they are of anger, than they are of fear. Actually, no, they're terrified of fear. Because if they had the courage to face the fear, then we wouldn't be in this situation. But like a lot of people, more comfortable in the anger, more grateful for the anger than they are for the happiness. The happiness freaks them out, scares the hell out of them. And so that's the weakness of being strong, but the strength of being weak.

Man, how much help can we actually get if we admit we need help? How much can we achieve our dreams if we ask for people to help us achieve our dreams? How much can we sleep if we let ourselves just relax? How much can we smile if we let ourselves be happy? What if we actually let ourselves be loved? The strength to be loved, the strength to love someone else. Why do we call this weakness? What a perpetuated bullshit throughout the generations. Can we please, can we please stop this cultural bullshit that we pass on from generation to generation to generation that is so out of line with how the human biology works, with how the human sociology and society works? Can we just recognize that human beings need each other. We are built on love. And to pretend that we're not, I would say is a huge helping of weakness. To pretend that we're not built on love. It says to me, the person is just terrified of love. It doesn't say to me that they're strong. It says to me, they're terrified, like terrified, paralyzed, mortified, afraid of love.

How is that strength to be like literally wallowing in fear for me that doesn't sound like strength.

It's okay to be afraid of things, but it's also okay to have courage. I want to highlight the courage to feel these things, the courage to go after these things. I'm just tired of seeing so many friends and family and cultures. I see it politically in the U.S., just so much people puffing out their chest like they're strong. Sorry, when I see somebody puff out their chest, I think they're fucking weak. And yeah, I'm using the F-bomb a lot today because real raw emotions often come with swear words. And I just, I just, I'm tired of seeing the role models in society tell us that strength is beating one's chest and puffing it out and not admitting to when they feel sad and not admitting to when they fall in love and not admitting to when they need help. Man, in a culture where everyone's supposed to puff out the chest, the strongest ones are the ones who can admit help. The strongest ones are the ones who can say they're in love. The strongest ones are the ones who can cry and grieve. Millions of people who died during COVID and who has the fucking strength to talk about it. How many people actually talk about it nowadays? Very few. It's because most of us are terrified to have such a deep, raw, intense conversation.

But you know what? I think we need real strength, not this like puffed out chest. I wear sunglasses in the club strength. This like, I am pretending that I'm strong, but really I'm just socially anxious strength. I think we need real fucking strength. So I think what I'm realizing is that I don't look as strong as a lot of people, but honestly, when it comes to real strength like this, I believe I'm levels above most people I've ever met. And that's where I want people to get. That's where I want culture to get. Can we get to that level where we realize it's okay to be a human being, that it takes strength to actually be a human being instead of be the shell of an image that we've created from years and years of generations of people passing on how to live in misery?

Like if these people actually look strong and actually felt strong and actually like were happy then maybe i'd emulate it but most of these people who are like oh let me be all strong don't look actually happy they're quite miserable so yeah as you can tell like i'm quite pissed off about this it's just too many people in my life i think are succumbing to this myth of strength this like illusion of strength and i'm just so fucking tired of it like, if people want to be strong i can teach you how to be strong if you want to be strong i'll teach you how to be strong if you want to be like if you're afraid of being weak come like take classes with me listen and listen to the podcast have conversations with me because if you actually want to be really strong. Like i can help you get beyond all this superficial nonsense all right talk to you all next week.