DailyJim: Tears are the body’s weapon against pain

Hello everyone, welcome to another Daily Gym. Today is Monday, December 2nd, 2024. Wow, I started doing these again, kind of consistently, January of this year. So it's almost one year. It's been 11 months of me doing this almost consistently. Not every Monday through Thursday, but most of them this year. Today what I want to talk about is a quote from this TV show Picard which is a the newest Star Trek series that's out and the guy said he has been told I have been told that tears are the weapons against pain and I may have butchered that quote but basically I'll fix that up in the title but so the tears being a weapon against pain against human pain. And I think about this so much because I see people in so much pain. And often I think we try to suppress the pain and push it down. But really, what if tears are the ways that we actually fight against the pain, or at least we absolve the pain, we release the pain, we.

Dissolve the pain, almost like tears being like an acid or something that can break down the pain into more digestible chunks.

I know for me, the last couple of weeks, there have been multiple times where I really just cried, like one time, no twice, I think, where I was wailing, not just weeping, but wailing. And I think because I was able to go through that, I recognized some of the deep pain that I was in and was able to convert that and come out more motivated, more excited, more proud, and frankly feeling more strong. And I think sometimes we try to push the pain down, but it doesn't go away. It just doesn't go away. Crying can help the pain get out. Maybe that's it. When we push the pain down, it stays inside. When we cry, we get the pain out. It's a way of expressing and releasing the pain. So hold on one second.

Okay, let's see how this works. I did a little pause in the podcast, but...

Tears being a weapon against pain, tears being a way to get the pain out. Almost like if we drink a lot of water, then we urinate to get the water out. Not even the water, but we get the urine out. We get kind of the, I guess, I don't know if excrement's the right word, but the waste. We clear it from the body. And I think crying is a way to clear the pain from the body. But we don't do it because society says don't do it you're strong if you don't cry i know it's just like it's like telling somebody they're strong if they don't pee sorry you have to pee if you don't pee you're gonna really hurt your bladder or if you don't uh poop if you don't poop you're a really strong person what okay until you have constipation until you start getting bowel issues until you realize how that impacts the rest of your body or it's like telling somebody don't speak because if you speak, you're not strong. Okay. So you hold all these thoughts inside your head that makes you strong. Okay. Until you go crazy, I guess. Um, so there's so much of like telling people to suppress emotions, suppressing sadness, but we sometimes have to get it out. We have to express it. I did a workshop earlier today where, um, we went through a rejection scenario, emotional combat workshop online. Um, we'll start doing a lot more of these. And, uh, when I did this rejection scenario with the guy, he opened up and shared something he'd been working on, some idea that he's had, and then asked me for help. And I rejected him. I hit pretty hard. And then he responded with the three steps, truth, fair play, love. Afterwards, when we were reflecting on the exercise, he said, you know what? It just felt really good to say it out loud to somebody who didn't know about the idea. Even if you rejected me, the way you rejected me, You use the words that I've been afraid people are going to use and you said them out loud as well. And it just, it felt good to say them out loud. So I think a lot of times with this, it's being able to get it out, to not just hold it in the body, not hold it in the mind, to be able to get these things out. Tears are one of the best ways to let the pain outside the body. Otherwise, we're just holding the pain in the body. And as we hold the pain in the body, it shows up in the abdomen, it shows up in the chest, it shows up in the back, it shows up in the shoulders, it shows up in the eyes. Maybe the head shows up in the foot, the knee. It can show up in so many different ways because we don't let it out. Or we feel sadness, we feel pain, and we let anger out, but we don't let sadness out. And so the sadness stays inside. And the sadness turns into anger because we're only allowed to let anger out. How many people you know do this? Or they feel sad and they only let fear out. They tell you, I'm afraid, but they don't say that they're sad. So I think tears and communication are two ways especially verbal communication are two ways to get out sadness instead of just holding it and storing it in the body and I think someone who gets it out is probably a hell of a lot stronger than somebody who holds all that stuff in all this bottle of pain it's like a ticking time bomb so anyways that's the episode for today and I will talk to you all tomorrow.